How to Deal with Your Spoiled Brat – Smart Parents

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The obvious obnoxious behavior and attitude of a spoiled child are usually quite obvious to others before they are to you. So if a relative or friend happens to bring this up to your attention, instead of justifying yourself, or your child, take the time to assess whether it may be true.
If you don’t do this, you may only become aware of it when your child’s requests become more and more unrealistic and their scorn for the kindness of others becomes more and more obvious.
As with any behavior, things evolve slowly, starting when your child is small. When he/she is young and cuddly, you tend to respond to any their requests, no matter how unrealistic it may be. But after you have taught him/her that he can get anything he/she wants because you’re not able to say “No! That’s enough!” you then begin to make empty threats you never carry out. In fact, what you have done is reward them with the things they wanted which leads them to make demands for things which is not realistic for them to make, especially at their age.
Before you realize it, your sweet child has become a tyrant who wants everything to revolve around him/her. And when you don’t act as he or she likes, you trigger a temper tantrum.
You see, if you already see this behavior beginning to happen, and don’t do anything about it, you’re only setting the stage for a lot of pain and even misery in your child’s life, because he or she is growing without the ability to appreciate what he or she has.  He/she will be ungrateful and will be rude and unkind toward others, damaging or even destroying relationships which could enrich his/her life. When they get to be adults, he or she will be frustrated that he or she cannot achieve the things they dreamed about… often because they are totally unrealistic, but also because he or she did not learn to work for them.
Stop and firmly set the right rules and values for each of you. But how?

(1) Discuss with your guests, friends, relatives and limit the number of gifts they give your child and how much they spend on those gifts.

(2) Teach and explain to your child, while they are small, the difference between a need and a want, between what is necessary and simply having what others have. Then, from their own list of the things they desire, help them to choose one or two items that are more of a necessity than just a want.

(3) Teach him or her that in order to get something it requires time and effort. Buy them a piggy bank and show them how to save enough money to buy those two things they listed as something they need or would like to have. From the time they are small, even as young as six years old, he or she can start to do some things, according to his or her abilities, to earn and save some money.

(4) Teach him or her to take care of things. For instance, you can show them how to plant some seeds and care for the growing plant together. Keep a journal together which can include pictures, their impressions, their thoughts, and their feelings.

Don’t make your child’s happiness from the time they’re small dependent on the things they get!  It’s not too early, or too late, to teach him or her the value of things, the value of relationships, the value of self-control, the value of money, the value of gratitude.
Ultimately, this is your responsibility; and your efforts will be rewarded!